My kids get along pretty well most of the time, but there’s nothing like a week of school vacation to bring out their bad sides with each other.
Very little ignites my temper faster than bickering, and really I think my kids should realize this by now and act accordingly. Dammit.
Unfortunately, there was there a lot of bickering going on here by the end of the break. Enough that I lost my patience and just started shouting random words at the kids from whatever room I was in when I heard them starting to fight.
B and G are in the living room arguing over who gets to use the piano?
I am in the kitchen just randomly shouting: “Share!” ; “Be Kind!”; “Use Respectful Words!”; “Take Turns!”; “STOP FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT’S GOOD!”.
Strangely enough, those helpful phrases shouted at children from two rooms away didn’t fix the problem. Shocking, I know. The children, as it turns out, weren’t even aware I was talking to them. I don’t know what they thought I was doing when I was just yelling random words at the top of my lungs, but I guess I do weird stuff often enough that it wasn’t that big a deal for them.
After this many years of parenting, I should know better. I should know that I either need to stay out of the issue and let them work it out, or I need to actually get involved by walking over and calmly helping to mediate the situation.
But sometimes I just get sick of being patient(ish) and mature(ish) and I want to scream and stomp my feet and get my way. (This is also not good parenting, just FYI.) And I want my kids to stop. fighting. already.
Do you ever have to deal with kids that just can’t seem to get along? What have you done that’s helped?