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This is Fourteen

This is fourteen years: you wake up in the morning, get breakfast, empty the dishwasher, help get the kids ready for the day, open Facebook and see that it says “Happy Anniversary”, double check the date on the calendar, and realize that it IS, in fact, the 14th anniversary of the day you got married. 

And you both laugh.  You say, I remembered it was coming a few days ago, but then it slipped my mind again.  He says, same.

Fourteen years is multiple daily phone calls verifying who is picking up which children, when, from where.  Discussions about what to cook for dinner and coordinating youth sporting events.  Conversations about mortgage rates and retirement accounts, the pros and cons of specific healthcare plans.  Then laughing at yourselves over how exciting your life has become. 

Fourteen years is buying each other the exact same gift for an anniversary present.  Cause you know each other so well, cause you love so many of the same things.  Except it’s tickets to a show and you can’t return one set of tickets.

Fourteen years is him playing a video game while you shop for Christmas gifts online on your anniversary night.

Fourteen years is all that not mattering because regardless of the date, you’re a team in all ways and in all things, every day, all day and no matter what you’re doing, you’re happy to be together. 

Fourteen years is when the other person is as familiar to you as your own self, but still the person you’re most excited to see and talk to every day about anything.  Even mortgage rates.

Fourteen years is still holding hands when you walk anywhere together and your kids telling you how weird you are and getting grossed out when you give each other a kiss.

Fourteen years is better than I ever imagined.  Thank you, babe. 

Happy Anniversary.

(Yesterday. But I didn’t have time to write this then.  But that’s okay, because this is fourteen years.)




For the third year in a row, Matt is on a business trip during the first week of December.  I know this because this is the third year in a row that he’s been gone on our anniversary.  Honestly, it’s not like we’d be doing anything exciting on a Tuesday night in early December, so it’s not really a big deal.  But eventually it would be nice to see him in person on this day just so I can tell him to his face how glad I am to be married to him.

This is our 13th anniversary.  And I’m really, really happy to report that he’s still the person I most want to hang out with, whose opinion I seek first on every subject and whose thoughts matter most to me, whose presence makes me happiest and absence is felt the sharpest.

I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again: my early 20’s weren’t my best decision-making years, but I definitely, absolutely got this one right.  Marrying Matt was my best decision ever.

I will not lie, though, marriage is not an easy state of being.  It’s a constant — and I mean never-ending — process of compromising and prioritizing and listening and appreciating and adapting.  I am not the same person I was 13 years ago; I have grown up and changed and evolved as my life has moved through different phases.  And Matt has changed as well.  It’s not hard to see how we could have changed in ways that made us less likely to agree and less inclined to want the same things.  But I think we’ve worked hard, often without even knowing we were doing it, to make sure we kept our priorities in line with one another.  I think we’ve kept an important focus: that what makes the other person happy is good and important and vital.  As long as we’re both always working to make the other happy, we will each be happy, too — because someone else is always working to make that so.

So today, even though he’s thousands of miles away, I’m celebrating 13 years of the best decision I ever made and looking forward to spending the rest of my life working hard to make Matt happy, just the way he makes me happy, every single day.

Also, our first 10th anniversary, and our second 10th anniversary.


Inspirational Words


Happy Tenth Anniversary (for the second time), Matt! 

Ten, Times Two



Matt and I have two anniversaries.  Eleven and a half years ago, we eloped.  And then ten years ago, we had a wedding.

So tomorrow is our second ten-year anniversary.

Our wedding was so long delayed, so much anticipated, and so worth the wait. 

Our original wedding was postponed because I was supposed to deploy.  So we eloped.  Then I didn’t deploy because it turned out I was pregnant.  And then we had a baby.  And then Matt deployed. 

And then, FINALLY, fourteen months after our original wedding was scheduled for, nineteen months after we eloped, ten months after our first baby was born, and four months after Matt came home, we had a wedding. 

And man, it was the best party.  The sweetest, most anticipated, joy-filled celebration of something we had planned and delayed and hoped for for so long.  It was a night full of the people we love most, dancing and singing and eating and celebrating and filling us up with love and support and happiness.  It was a perfect night.

No marriage is without bumps, no relationship is without it’s challenges, and no person is without flaws.  But perfection isn’t the goal.  The goal, I think, is to find the person who helps you through hard times and allows you come out the other side a better person.  The point of it all is not to have a perfect life free of hardship, but to love your life together complete with it’s difficulties.

Perfection is a fairy tale, but happily ever after is real.  I’m so grateful to be living mine.

wedding cake

Happy Tenth Anniversary, Matt, for the second time. 

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